A Father's Note

I sat down for about half an hour working on my business presentation and marketing while my daughters were laying down sleeping. They have been sleeping for a while, about 2 hours after they ate, and as soon as I finished working on the presentation and marketing they woke up. My babies for one reason or another, they do not cry when they wake up even when they are hungry. Both of them stayed there for a good 30 minutes talking (if I may say considering they are 5 months) who knows what. Then one of them, Dalitso, started moving on her stomach trying to reach for a bottle of milk that was in front of her. She was so determined that she moved quite a distance until I brought the bottle to her. Looking at her determined to get to that bottle made, me realise of the shortfalls that I face sometimes in doing things that I do. Especially when I know that it needs to be done. It also gives me the determination to raise my children without the fear of stereotype that I hear most of the time...

I woke up this morning to a cool breezy sunny weather, I don't know if that can be used in one sentence, and not to mention the talking of my twin babies. I open my eyes only to see her on my stomach looking in my face with a shirt saying "daddy's little alarm clock." Indeed it she was the alarm clock screaming on top of her lungs for me to wake up, she wasn't crying but loud enough to wake someone up. This brought back the memories when they were just born, I was waking up in the middle of the night to feed them, change the diaper - YES I said it, change diaper - and also hold them both in my hands and put them to sleep. All that hasn't changed that much only most of the times they go to sleep on their on - they are big girls at 5 months. After feeding them, I decided to tale them for their their first walk in the trails. As I was walking through the trails, they were quiet all the way looking around, seems aware of what is going on. Looking at the oncoming ...

I always hear that someone is a good father or someone is not. But I scratch my brain all the time and ask myself what a defintion of a good father can be. This is a broad topic and is very subjective due to a lot of factors.In the midst of this confusion, I still have managed to beat up myself, being a new dad, of how I am going to be a good dad and what that entails. But lately I have sat down and give it a lot of thought that being a father to your children is what matters. Of whether I am going to be a good father is for others to judge, not me. I have encountered situations whereby I am taking care of my twin babies in the absense, due to prior engangements, or presence of their mother and people telling me I am a good father or I am going to be one. This is one of the most uncomfortable moments in my life, I feel like burying my head not wanting to hear what they are saying. Often times I put my head down pretending that I am busy with something. This is so because of my nature,...