I always hear that someone is a good father or someone is not. But I scratch my brain all the time and ask myself what a defintion of a good father can be. This is a broad topic and is very subjective due to a lot of factors.In the midst of this confusion, I still have managed to beat up myself, being a new dad, of how I am going to be a good dad and what that entails.
But lately I have sat down and give it a lot of thought that being a father to your children is what matters. Of whether I am going to be a good father is for others to judge, not me. I have encountered situations whereby I am taking care of my twin babies in the absense, due to prior engangements, or presence of their mother and people telling me I am a good father or I am going to be one. This is one of the most uncomfortable moments in my life, I feel like burying my head not wanting to hear what they are saying. Often times I put my head down pretending that I am busy with something. This is so because of my nature, I feel that it is my responsibility anyway to take care of my kids whether I like it or not.God blessed me with the twins and delivered them to me on a silver platter. Even in the absense of their mother, who else will take care of them?
With this in mind, it is the responsibility, not a burden, of the fathers to be with their children no matter what the circumstances can be. Some blame themselves, some distance themselves saying they cannot be a good father but they haven't tried being one.
After all this brain cracking, I still fell short of finding the definition as there is none. I realise that one person can be a father and provide averything for the kids but absent emotionally. Or he can be available emotionally but can't provide for the children. Therefore, in my opinion there is no such thing as a "good father" ONLY a father because we took the responsibility to bring the children into this world, it is our responsibility to take care of them.
Last thoughts? I love being a father to my children. My respects to all fathers out there whether they classify you or not.![Reblog this post [with Zemanta]](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_vT--fwu1GAMXeAKjotkeD-rsmxCu3GNmT0Tvqh17_pT72kp3Ke4zDg9usTieKIZqeYIPA7AkJwByilEpZbxix84awB8peAE1DUMXYxSu_QiT3gi-gCc3PcYXgyGN1DIt-FdEwQdTJw49USyvKbUJP9=s0-d)
But lately I have sat down and give it a lot of thought that being a father to your children is what matters. Of whether I am going to be a good father is for others to judge, not me. I have encountered situations whereby I am taking care of my twin babies in the absense, due to prior engangements, or presence of their mother and people telling me I am a good father or I am going to be one. This is one of the most uncomfortable moments in my life, I feel like burying my head not wanting to hear what they are saying. Often times I put my head down pretending that I am busy with something. This is so because of my nature, I feel that it is my responsibility anyway to take care of my kids whether I like it or not.God blessed me with the twins and delivered them to me on a silver platter. Even in the absense of their mother, who else will take care of them?
With this in mind, it is the responsibility, not a burden, of the fathers to be with their children no matter what the circumstances can be. Some blame themselves, some distance themselves saying they cannot be a good father but they haven't tried being one.
After all this brain cracking, I still fell short of finding the definition as there is none. I realise that one person can be a father and provide averything for the kids but absent emotionally. Or he can be available emotionally but can't provide for the children. Therefore, in my opinion there is no such thing as a "good father" ONLY a father because we took the responsibility to bring the children into this world, it is our responsibility to take care of them.
Last thoughts? I love being a father to my children. My respects to all fathers out there whether they classify you or not.
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